I completely understand where you're coming from. Supporting an adult child with mental illness can truly be a complex and emotional journey. One thing that has helped me tremendously is joining a support group through the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). They have a variety of resources, both online and in-person, which offer a safe space to connect with others who genuinely understand what you're going through.
In addition to finding comfort in shared experiences, I've learned new coping strategies and techniques from other parents who have been in similar situations. A great resource that complemented the support groups was the book "Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder" by Julie A. Fast and John D. Preston, which provided some insightful approaches to maintaining a compassionate yet realistic relationship.
For maintaining my own well-being, I've found that setting aside time for self-care is crucial. Whether it's going for a walk, practicing yoga, or just having a quiet cup of tea in the morning, these small acts can make a big difference. It's easy to feel guilty about taking time for yourself, but it's important to remember that being at your best is essential for being able to support your child effectively.
Local community centers often host groups specifically for caregivers, so it might be worth checking out what's available in your area. Additionally, online forums like Reddit's r/Parenting or even Facebook groups can provide immediate support and advice, which can be comforting during challenging times.
Have you had any specific strategies or resources that have been helpful for managing your own well-being? It's a constant learning process, and I'm sure sharing our experiences can benefit both of us and others in similar situations.