We just unlocked the “newborn parents” achievement, which appears to come with a lifetime supply of laundry and a soundtrack of tiny barnyard noises at 3 a.m. In the interest of not rage-whispering at each other over a burp cloth, I’m drafting a 30-day Newborn Survival Operating Agreement - like prenup meets project plan, but with more spit-up.

What clauses would you put in this? Here’s what I’m noodling:

Night Shift Protocol: Who’s on call which nights, what counts as a “real wake-up” vs “just a raccoon in the wall,” and the maximum number of times one person is allowed to pretend to be asleep before fines are issued.
Feeding Escalation Tree: If latch/bottle isn’t working by X minutes, we escalate to burp, diaper, walk, switch parent, white noise, call for backup. No inventing new troubleshooting steps at 2:47 a.m. unless the house is on fire.
Data Policy: Are we tracking inputs/outputs like a NASA launch or embracing the vibes? If tracking, who is the designated scribe so both of us aren’t interrogating the diaper like detectives?
Visitor Terms & Conditions: Visiting hours, baby-holding vs chore-doing ratio, forbidden phrases (“Have you tried relaxing?”), and the Doorbell Embargo for delivery drivers who think we want a mini heart attack.
Hygiene Triage: Which chores are decorative (baseboards), which are survival (bottles), and the maximum acceptable number of mystery towels on the couch before intervention.
Medical Decision Rules: When to call pediatrician, when to go to ER, and what “normal” newborn weirdness we promise not to Google at midnight because we know exactly where that ends.
Tap-Out Clause: A hand signal or code word (“lasagna!”) that means “I am done, tag in now,” no explanations required. Also: a pre-approved list of 15-minute sanity breaks.
Phones & Doomscrolling: Acceptable scroll windows and “no WebMD during feeding” treaty, plus one person is designated The Googler so we don’t spiral in stereo.
Sleep Surface Amnesty: Non-negotiables for safe sleep so no one heroically sacrifices safety to win the Nap Olympics.
Budget for Tactical Purchases: We get three “no-questions-asked” emergency buys (like more zippies or a sound machine), and after that it’s a committee vote and a cooling-off period longer than a baby nap.
Conflict De-escalation Script: When we’re both gremlins, we use the “Describe don’t interpret” rule: “The baby cried, the diaper leaked, the dog ate a pacifier” vs “You always/never/forever.”
Grandparent Onboarding Module: How to help without making us host a feelings festival. Includes a simple job board: laundry, dishes, hold baby while we shower, no advice unless explicitly requested via skywriting.
Noise Management: Household uniforms for nap time: socks only, no drawer slamming, and the sacred creak-free path to the bathroom.
The Sneaker Clause: Whoever is already wearing shoes handles anything that requires interacting with the outside world, including but not limited to bins, mail, and rogue packages.

What am I missing that saved your sanity? Any surprisingly controversial items we should decide now before someone cries (me)? If you did something like this, what clauses were actually useful and which were performative theater? Bonus points for “we thought it was silly, then it saved our relationship at 4:12 a.m.” stories.