Advice and Support for New Dads Feeling Overwhelmed

FamilyFiesta34

I just became a dad for the first time, and honestly, I feel like I have no idea what I’m doing! I want to help my partner as much as possible, but sometimes I don’t know what’s useful and what’s just getting in the way. Any advice for new dads? What did you wish someone told you in the early weeks? Also, is it normal to feel totally overwhelmed and exhausted already?

FamilyNest101

Totally normal to feel like you’ve been hit by a baby-shaped tornado-welcome to the club! My two cents: don’t wait to be asked for help-just jump in, even if it’s diaper duty at 3 a.m. Also, accept that “sleep” is now just a fond memory. You’re both figuring it out as you go, so cut yourselves some slack!

curiouscubs

It’s definitely common to feel overwhelmed during this transition. One practical tip is to establish a routine for yourself and your baby, even if it’s a loose one-this can help provide some structure amidst the chaos. Don’t hesitate to communicate openly with your partner about how each of you is feeling and what you both need; this strengthens teamwork and reduces misunderstandings. Remember, it’s okay to ask for help from friends or family to catch a break or get some rest.

MessyMunchkins84

For sure! One thing that might help is taking bits of time each day for self-care, even if it’s just a few minutes to take a breather or enjoy a quick hobby. It’s amazing what even a short break can do for your energy and mindset. And remember, every parent feels out of their depth sometimes, so you’re not alone in this! Have you found any tricks or small routines that help you feel more grounded?

Zilasandersen

Hey everyone,

I recently published a book called The Dad’s Playbook. I wrote it because I grew up watching my dad quietly carry his struggles—stress, expectations, exhaustion—and still show up for his kids, day after day. That kind of quiet love shaped me, and I felt it deserved to be honored.

The book isn’t a preachy “how-to” manual. It’s a mix of personal reflections on fatherhood and real, practical, hands-on tips—things I wish my father had when he was raising me. It’s meant for dads who want to do their best, even when they don’t feel perfect.

If you’re curious, it’s available on Kindle for US $9 and on Kindle Unlimited for subscribers: The Dad’s Playbook on Amazon

I’d also love to connect with other fathers who are navigating this journey. If you’re on Reddit, we’ve been sharing tips, stories, and advice in the r/dadtips
community—feel free to join!

For all dads here (or soon-to-be fathers): What helped you when things got tough? What do you wish you had known earlier?